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When we were first introduced to Beth Kramer and the amazing space she co-founded for the wedding industry, Altared, we knew we had found our people. Fighting against traditions that alienate and exclude people, doing whatever we can to support wedding vendors, and making this industry a happier place for everyone are all missions we stand behind.

Which is why we’re so excited to introduce you to Beth, Altared and the incredible ways they are working to change the wedding industry (and how you can get involved).

Without further ado, let’s meet Beth and learn about Altared!

Please introduce yourself! Who are you and what do you do?

My name is Elisabeth “Beth” Kramer (she/her) and I’m a wedding planner in Portland, Oregon. My mission is to fight the Wedding Industrial Complex.

That term is a shorthand that I use to denote all of the gross things that exist in our society and are also 100 percent a part of the wedding industry. Think: racism, ageism, homophobia — pretty much anything that makes people unsafe and unseen.

I do this through a newsletter, a consulting service, an event, a podcast, and my own writing (on my blog and at various publications), all of which can be found on my website.

I also wrote a book about how to plan a wedding that’s in line with your values, and make all of the resources I use as a wedding planner free to use on my site.

What is Altared?

Logo designed by Small Yard Flowers

Altared is a space for wedding vendors who want to change the wedding industry. This work has taken many different forms since Altared started in February 2020. As of this writing (March 2022) through May 2022, the two main forms are:

a series of virtual classes. Each class is a paid partnership with an established educator on the topics of diversity, equity, inclusion, and accessibility in the wedding industry for wedding vendors.
a series of wedding vendor support sessions. Each 60-minute virtual session will be led by certified trauma support specialist Michelle Jalali and be open to seven wedding vendors.

The list of classes and sessions, including monthly themes, can be found on the Altared homepage.

How did Altared get started? How did it evolve into what it is today?

Altared started as a completely different event.

The Marriage Expo was hosted in April 2019 by Emily Sterling of Rooted & Wild: Spirited Ceremonies, Arielle Zamora of Small Yard Flowers, and me (wedding planner Elisabeth Kramer). The goal was to take the “traditional” wedding show and refocus the conversation on what really matters on a wedding day: the marriage.

The event was successful — eight couples showed up — but it was clear that the most dynamic conversations weren’t happening between couples.

They were happening between wedding vendors.

And thus, Altared was born.

The very first Altared was hosted in Portland, Oregon, on February 9, 2020. It featured three speakers: Kheoshi Owens of Empress Rules Equity Consulting, Jamie Thrower of Studio XIII Photography, and Arielle Zamora of Small Yard Flowers.

The event sold out.

Response was even more overwhelming the next time Altared was hosted: December 12, 2020. This event was virtual and had a very simple goal: Make wedding vendors less sad. Sixty-four vendors attended from nine states and two countries.

Next came a series of virtual classes hosted from February 2021 through June 2021, and a wedding vendor support care package sent in December 2021. Every month, Altared also sends a roundup of wedding industry news with a focus on resources for and by vendors.

Altared wedding industry event — *by Studio XIII Photography*

Who is Altared for?

Wedding vendors who want to change the wedding industry.

Why does the wedding world need a community like Altared?

In my experience, it’s very easy to feel isolated as a small business owner, which nearly all wedding vendors are. I find it can also be particularly easy to feel isolated in the wedding industry, which historically has focused on societal norms that hurt and alienate people.

Altared exists so that wedding vendors can work together to be more inclusive, sustainable, mindful, and, ultimately, happy with what we do and how we do it. That’s needed because I believe it’s hard to effect positive change from a place of isolation; it’s much easier when you have coworkers and friends working alongside you.

I also want to note that Altared is NOT a membership group. This is a common misconception because there are lots of membership groups in the wedding industry. Altared is very intentionally not this; people can engage with Altared in whatever way serves them best, be that signing up for the free newsletter, joining a support session, going to a class. There’s no right or wrong.

Altared event for wedding industry wedding vendors — *by Studio XIII Photography*

Altared wedding vendor event — *by Studio XIII Photography*

How have wedding vendors responded to the classes and events Altared hosts?

Wedding vendors have responded very well to Altared! In the two years that Altared has been around — nearly all of which has been during the COVID-19 pandemic — Altared has grown from a regional networking function to an organization that serves wedding vendors throughout the U.S. and in several nations around the world (so far, Canada, Japan, and Germany).

A couple examples:

The Altared newsletter serves more than 250 wedding vendors with an average open rate of 66. 5 percent and an average click rate of 11.5 percent. It’s a small and engaged group.
Last year’s series of classes had an average of 22 students with representation from 22 states and three countries; we are on track for similar numbers for the 2022 class season.

Analytics aside, Altared folks seem to actually like each other! They make friends! I know this because I see them partner on projects, share each other’s work, and refer one another to their clients.

One recent example:

Every month for the 2022 class season, I’ve put out a call for vendors to sponsor other vendors to go to an Altared class. This is 100 percent a goodwill thing; sure, I give the vendors who sponsor a ticket the option to be called out on the Altared Instagram but it’s really just a “do a nice thing” thing.

Every month, Altared folks have shown up. For February’s class alone, we had FIVE vendors sponsor tickets so that other vendors, whom they’ve never met, could go to the class. I think this is the coolest thing.

What have been some of your biggest takeaways from your work with Altared? What work have you been most proud of?

My biggest takeaway from my work with Altared is that I’m not alone. That’s also a theme I often hear from vendors who interact with Altared in some way, whether it’s by subscribing to get the free newsletter or joining a $7 support session or coming to a $50 class. In nearly every situation, I hear from at least one fellow vendor who says, “Wow. I thought I was the only one.” or “This is really refreshing.”

Altared wedding vendor space — *by Studio XIII Photography*

What are you most looking forward to doing with Altared in 2022/2023?

I am cautiously optimistic that we’ll be able to host an in-person Altared in December 2022. This is something I was hoping to do in December 2021 but that I opted not to because of COVID.

I see this event as a coming together — in-person and virtually — of all of the amazing people who have entered the Altared universe since we started in February 2020. Many of those folks have been able to meet each other online through Altared’s various offerings so I’m really looking forward to providing a space where those relationships can deepen and grow.

After a tough couple of years in the wedding industry, what message would you want to share with your fellow wedding vendors?

You’re not alone.

I say this both as a co-founder of Altared who regularly interacts with dozens of vendors all over the world and as a vendor myself who has experienced extreme financial and mental hardship during COVID-19.

I make this joke a lot but it’s applicable: I don’t miss much about my former corporate life but I do miss coworkers so email me.

Altared wedding industry class for wedding vendors — *by Studio XIII Photography*

How can people get involved with Altared and get in touch?

The Altared newsletter is best. You can subscribe via this link.

Altared’s next class on April 19, 2022 is “Your Ableism Is Showing, and How It’s Hurting Your Wedding Business” with deafblind entrepreneur, disabled rights activist, and accessibility educator Erin Perkins. And Altared’s next wedding vendor support session is happening on April 26, 2022 for wedding vendors who are raising a child or children.

To find out about all of Altared’s classes, support sessions and events, visit our website.

I love to hear from people who work in weddings. I’m at elisabeth@elisabethkramer.com. If you’re emailing me specifically about Altared, you can also use altaredpdx@gmail.com.

We are so excited to announce that Vancouver photographer John Bello is joining our Intimate Elopement + Photography team here at Young Hip & Married! Not only is John an awesome human and photographer, but he brings his passion for representation and love of genuine emotion to his work in the most beautiful and meaningful ways.

You can learn more about John in our interview below: Check out his photography style, learn why representation in photography is so important to him, and help John celebrate his 10th wedding season!

All photos in this post are courtesy of John Bello.

Please introduce yourself! Who are you and what do you do?

Hi!! My name is John Bello!

I would like to acknowledge, I have the privilege and opportunity to document weddings and celebrations that primarily take place on the traditional, ancestral and unceded territory of the Coast Salish peoples – Sḵwx̱wú7mesh, Stó:lō and Səl̓ílwətaʔ/Selilwitulh and xʷməθkʷəy̓əm Nations, also known as Vancouver. This is the land where my photography operates, benefits and flourishes. This is the place I call home. I live in the vibrant Davie Village in Vancouver’s West End, and am a proud member of the LGBTQ+ community.

2022 is the year of my 10th wedding season, a decade of pure love, growth, pride and trust from all of my couples. I like to say that a wedding day is not just about the couple, I believe it is truly about the people around you and the emotions the day carries. It’s super important to me to capture these emotions genuinely by both being a fly on the wall and immersing myself as a guest. It’s the ugly cries and the deep belly laughs that mean the most to me!

What first drew you to wedding photography?

When I first started taking photos, I noticed the style of wedding photography shifting from fashion and portraiture to a more documentary, candid and storytelling style of capturing celebrations. I was immediately drawn to the raw emotions of images and the impact they had on me as a viewer. At the time, I was at the beginning of my own new journey of self-love and learning to embrace vulnerability, and I resonated with that when I started seeing all these emotionally impactful wedding photos.

What is your favourite moment to capture on the big day?

My favourite moment to capture on the wedding day is just after the couple gets married. I love capturing the first hugs with loved ones, the elation, the tears, the giant sighs of relief. Love bursting from all directions.

We love your passion for highlighting diversity and valuing representation. Can you tell us more about that? Why is that important to you?

As a gay person of colour (Filipino to be exact!), I had a difficult time connecting to the world around me in my early years and then coming into my own as an adult. I felt a huge disconnect to the shows, movies, commercials and campaign ads that I grew up consuming. It always made me feel less than, or an afterthought.. I never saw ‘myself’ or people that looked like me portrayed in the spotlight. So it really had a negative impact on my self worth and confidence and how I saw myself fitting into this world.

This is why as a photographer, I am super passionate about the importance of representation, especially the representation of LGBTQ+ couples in my photos. I can’t even count how many times a couple has booked with me, saying it was because how amazing it felt to have found people that looked exactly like them in my work.

Representation truly helps people feel connected, important and seen. If a person can see themselves in a photographer’s work, that deep connection is powerful beyond measure.

I am well aware that it is a huge privilege for me to be able to share photos of LGBTQ+ couples when I am allowed to. I have photographed so many beautiful queer weddings over the years but have never been able to share them due to privacy reasons – fear of repercussion from couple’s families, workplaces, and overall safety of their well being.

This is why I’m passionate about representation. Representation helps normalize ideas of love and normalizes ideas of people. It is very unfortunate that there are those that don’t agree with me and what I stand for, but my hope is that the impact of representation is what changes people’s minds and their hearts.

How can couples ensure they’re working with someone who aligns with their values?

Finding a photographer or wedding vendor that aligns with your own values is one of the biggest things that make up the foundation of an overall amazing wedding experience.

For example, if you are looking for a photographer who is queer friendly and inclusive,
the first thing I suggest doing is taking the time to make a conscious effort to really dive into their website and Instagram. You can quickly get a clear sense of who a photographer is just by how they articulate their messages, what they post, and what they share.

Ask yourself: Does this photographer acknowledge the use of pronouns? Do they use gender neutral language when communicating their thoughts? What kind of causes do they normally support?

These are some of the first things you can look out for!

The other thing you want to be conscious of is the type of content they feature throughout their galleries and the intention behind each image.

Is there diversity in their portfolio?
Is there any tokenism in this body of work?

What advice do you have for couples planning an elopement?

Hire Young Hip and Married! (Author’s note: We didn’t even ask him to say that!)

Even small and intimate weddings have so many working parts. The last thing you want to do on your wedding day is to be constantly worrying about logistics. Hiring an elopement officiant company takes this stress away and allows you the opportunity to be fully present, within yourself, and each other as a couple!

And being present IS the secret to the best photos and the secret to having the most memorable day!

Book Your Elopement Today!

When you’re not busy with weddings, how do you love to spend your time?

When I’m not busy with weddings and behind the computer, I appreciate both my down time, and being social! I love lazy days where I can paint or watercolor, sprinkle multiple naps in between and order some yummy takeout.

Most of my personal time is spent with my partner Andy and our loveable, fluffy goldendoodle Rufus!
@rufusdupaww on Instagram!

As a couple, we love the summer weather, lakeside camping, and spending days at Wreck Beach. Going to music festivals, house and techno shows, live concerts, and drag brunches are things we enjoy all year round.

Thank you so much, John! Check out more of John’s incredible work below. And if you want John to capture your special day, get in touch to book your Intimate Elopement + Photography!

www.johnbello.ca
www.instagram.com/johnbello.ca

We’ve all been to that wedding. You know the one: An awesome couple gets married but their ceremony is a total snooze fest. Everything feels impersonal and out of touch, and all of their guests are bored. So how do you avoid having that wedding and actually involve your guests in your wedding ceremony?

We’re glad you asked! Below we’re sharing 19 awesome ways to include your guests in your ceremony. Not only will these ideas keep your guests happy and engaged (and awake!) but they’ll also make your wedding day feel more meaningful and unique to you.

Have your guests in your wedding party

Of course, one of the best ways to include your most special people in your wedding day is to ask them to join your wedding party. Whether as a bridesmaid, groomsman, person of honour or attendant, you can have your loved ones play a special role on your wedding day.

Invite a guest to do a reading

Another great way to honour a special guest, and include them in your ceremony, is by inviting them to do a reading. You can pick a wedding reading from literature, songs or even your favourite TV show and have a guest come up during the ceremony to recite it.

Vancouver wedding — *by Erica Miller Photography*

Add your guests to your processional

If you’re planning on a processional (when the wedding party and couple walk down the aisle at the beginning of the ceremony), why not add a few more special guests? This is a great place to include close family and friends who aren’t technically part of the wedding party, but who you still want to honour. Or, if you’re having a small wedding, why not invite every guest to join in on the procession?

Ask two guests to be your witnesses

Another great way to honour and include special guests in your wedding ceremony is by inviting them to be your witnesses. Depending on where you get married, you may need one or two people to witness your wedding and sign your marriage licence. Want to have even more fun with this? Put all of your guests’ names in a hat and during the ceremony, pull out two names. Those two are your witnesses!

Conduct a ring warming

A ring warming is based on a Celtic tradition where the wedding rings are passed around to all of the guests to bless before they’re exchanged by the couple. This is a beautiful and intimate way to involve your guests in your wedding ceremony. If you’re concerned about how long it will take to pass the rings around, you could instead display them at the entrance of your ceremony and have guests bless them as they walk in. And to keep things as hygienic as possible, you’ll want to provide hand sanitizer!

Last tip: Don’t leave the rings loose! Make sure they’re tied together and, preferably, in a box. The last thing you want is to lose a ring during the ring warming ceremony.

Recite a community vow

A community vow is a promise that your community of loved ones make to you – and it’s one of our favourite ways to include your guests in your wedding ceremony. To do this, your officiant could say something like, “And do you, friends and family, promise to support this couple, encourage their marriage and witness their lives together? If so, please respond with a resounding, ‘We do!’” To which all of your guests will shout, “We do!”

For more vow ideas, click here!

Include your guests in your story

With a Custom & Creative Ceremony, your officiant will write your ceremony script just for you, incorporating your personal love story. And there’s nothing more personal than including your loved ones in your ceremony. Whether it’s your roommate who introduced you two or your grandma who knew they were the one after the first date, any guest would be honoured to be included in your ceremony script.

Ask your guests to sing along

Who says you have to wait until the reception to start playing some music? If music is a big part of your relationship, or there’s a meaningful song you want to incorporate into your ceremony, you can absolutely ask your guests to sing along with you. Just be sure to provide the lyrics! You could alternatively ask guests to read a poem out loud or hand out kazoos and make it a real party.

how to involve your guests in your wedding ceremony — *by Erica Miller Photography*

Write your own vows

Your guests will be more engaged and interested in your ceremony if it feels like you. After all, they’re attending your wedding because they love and support you. To be able to witness vows and hear personal words from the heart is one of the best ways to make your wedding more meaningful for you and your guests.

PS: Need help writing your vows? Check out our vow writing course!

Ask for marriage advice

A more sentimental way to involve your guests in your wedding ceremony is to ask for their best marriage advice. You can have a book or wishing stones placed at the entrance of your ceremony for guests to share their advice as they walk in, or place cards on guests’ seats for them to fill out.

Have an interactive recessional

A recessional (when the couple and the wedding party make their way back up the aisle after the ceremony is over) is the perfect time to let loose and celebrate. You did it – you’re married! A recessional is also the perfect time to involve your guests. Play awesome music and encourage everyone to dance, or hand out bubbles for guests to blow your way as you exit your ceremony.

sparkler exit with wedding guests — *by Beautiful Life Studios*

Form a prayer circle

If you’re a spiritual or religious couple, a great way to combine your beliefs and your loved ones is with a prayer circle. You can do this before, during or after your ceremony by inviting your guests to join hands and recite or listen to a prayer of your choosing. For a full list of wedding prayers, click here.

Incorporate candles

You may have heard of a unity candle, when the couple each takes a candle and lights a third candle, representing how they are coming together as one. But you can also use candles to include your guests in your ceremony. For instance, you can have your guests each light their own candle from your unity candle, creating a beautiful glowing effect.

Greet your guests

At most weddings, the couple doesn’t actually get to greet their guests until the reception, when they hastily go around doing a toast at every table. But wouldn’t it be great if you greeted your guests at the beginning of your wedding day? Think about how much more intimate your wedding ceremony would feel if you got to hug each of your loved ones before standing up and making your commitment to your new spouse. PS: This works best with a smaller guest count!

involve your guests in your wedding ceremony with custom jean jackets — *by Erica Miller Photography*

Create your own unity tradition

Many unity traditions only involve the couple but there’s no reason you can’t get creative and include all of your guests. For example, we once officiated a wedding where the couple and all of their guests took a shot in the middle of the ceremony! Have fun with it and don’t be afraid to change the rules. If you need some ideas, check out 23 creative additions you can add to your ceremony.

Let your guests in on a surprise

Just like in the wedding scene from Love Actually… minus the best man being in love with the bride, of course! A great way to have your guests feel involved and excited during your ceremony is to let them in on a surprise. Planning to play your spouse’s favourite song without them knowing or do a flash mob dance down the aisle? Let your guests in on the surprise!

Take your program to the next level

Do you need wedding ceremony programs? Probably not. But if you do decide to have programs, why not take them up a notch and make them more fun for your guests? You could include guest trivia, like which couples have been married the longest, a family tree or even funny photos of your guests.

involve your guests in your wedding ceremony, round ceremony — *by Erica Miller Photography*

Be encircled by love

Really want to feel your guests’ love? Instead of the traditional ceremony set up, arrange the chairs so that your guests are all in a circle with you and your spouse in the centre. This is a great way for your guests to feel more engaged in your ceremony, and for you to more deeply feel their presence and love.

Shout your guests out virtually

If not all of your guests are able to join you in person, you can still involve your guests in your wedding ceremony virtually. By 2022, none of us are strangers to live streamed ceremonies. But instead of making your virtual guests feel like they’re on another boring Zoom call, keep it interactive by waving to them during the ceremony, asking them to leave you comments in the chat or sending them gift boxes to open up during the ceremony.

And there you have it, 19 ways to involve your guests in your wedding ceremony! Before we leave you, here are a few more tips to ensure your wedding ceremony is as awesome for you as it is for your loved ones.

Quick tips to keep your guests involved and engaged in your wedding ceremony

Start on time. Try to start your ceremony as close to on time as you can. It’s not nice to make your guests wait! Plus, if you’re late for your ceremony, your whole timeline will be delayed. This may cause you to have to skip or shorten something later in the day.
Make sure your guests are comfortable. No one wants to stand in heels for a 45 minute ceremony or sit outside in the pouring rain. Take a walk through your ceremony space and consider what your guests will need to feel comfortable.
Don’t let things go on too long. Even your closest loved ones don’t want to sit through a ceremony that lasts forever. People will get bored, tired, restless or hungry if you make them sit there for too long.
Have fun! Your ceremony can be sentimental and serious, but it doesn’t have to be stiff. Don’t be afraid to incorporate some inside jokes or lighter moments. Your guests will love laughing along with you.
Make it you. Your guests love you and will be most engaged in a ceremony that reflects who you two truly are. Talk to your officiant about how you can add more of your personality, culture, traditions and beliefs into your wedding ceremony.

written by Riana Ang-Canning
feature image by Erica Miller Photography

Over the last few years, more and more couples have chosen to elope, have intimate ceremonies or get legally married before their big weddings. And we all know why that’s been the case (thanks, COVID!).

Here at Young Hip & Married, we love an elopement! But we know they’re not for everyone (find out if an elopement is right for you!). But what if you could have the best of both worlds? What if you could get legally married in an elopement now and have your big wedding celebration later?

Of course, this option isn’t going to be right for everyone. If you really want to wait to legally tie the knot until you can have your big party, that’s awesome. But before you make that decision, here are 8 reasons why you may want to get legally married before your big wedding.

Vancouver elopement wedding — *by Erica Miller Photography*

You’re having a destination wedding

A great reason to get legally married before your big wedding is if your big wedding is happening overseas. Often, it’s difficult to get legally married abroad as there are a lot of hoops you need to jump through: paperwork, translations, waiting periods and even blood tests! In some countries, only residents are able to get legally married. So keep things simple and take care of the legally ceremony at home.

It takes the pressure off your big day

As you can imagine, a wedding day is often a high-pressure, high-stress event. So why not take some of the burden off your shoulders by doing the legal ceremony ahead of time? That way, you can rest easy during your party knowing the serious stuff has already been taken care of.

You don’t have to wait

Of course, the big reason why we’ve been seeing more elopements, intimate and legal weddings lately is because couples don’t want to wait. Many couples have watched as their big wedding day gets postponed time and time again. So if you’re tired of waiting, why not elope now and party later? You can always have your legal ceremony now and save the reception for a safer time.

elope now and party later when you get legally married before your big wedding — *by Erica Miller Photography*

You can enjoy the benefits of marriage

Sometimes it’s the logistics of life that encourage couples to get married on paper while they wait to have a bigger celebration. You may need to be legally married in order to share insurance policies or benefits, before a big move or big purchase, if work is taking one of you out of the country, or to be aligned with your beliefs about cohabitation or starting a family.

You get to celebrate twice!

This world could always use more joy, so let’s make the most of celebrating your love! With two weddings you can have two anniversaries, two parties, two awesome outfits, and two excuses to enjoy wedding cake. A smaller legal wedding also gives you something to be excited about as you continue planning your big reception.

Vancouver elopement — *by Erica Miller Photography*

You can include people who can’t attend your big wedding

A great reason to get legally married ahead of time is the people you can include. For example, if you have older relatives who may not be able to travel to your big wedding, you could include them in a local elopement. Or, if your big wedding is going to be adults-only, you could invite the special kids in your life to your legal wedding beforehand.

You can focus on the ceremony

We truly believe your ceremony is the most important part of your wedding (of course, as officiants, we’re a little biased). Without a ceremony, you don’t have a reason for the rest of your party! By getting legally married first, you can put all of your focus on this important part of your wedding. Take your time writing your own vows and choosing readings without getting hung up on any of the reception details.

Time isn’t guaranteed

If the pandemic has taught us anything, it’s that time is not guaranteed. No one knows how long they have on this earth and the last few years have shown us we need to take advantage of every second we get. Love is the most important thing and being able to marry your person while you can shouldn’t be taken for granted.

beach elopement in Vancouver — *by Erica Miller Photography*

PS: Your legal wedding doesn’t have to be dry and boring!

Just because you’re choosing to get legally married before your big wedding celebration doesn’t mean your legal wedding needs to be impersonal or less important than your big party. You can still have a sweet and sentimental moment that perfectly reflects the two of you: whether that’s in a ballgown at the top of a mountain or in jeans and a t-shirt at city hall!

Your legal ceremony is likely going to be shorter and have less frills than your large wedding reception. But you can still dress up, invite a few guests, have your wedding in a cool space, and hire a photographer to document your day. Check out our Awesome Elopement + Photography package for the perfect legal ceremony celebration!

Back in the day, a couple only got legally married before their big wedding if they had something to hide. But it’s 2022, so go ahead and celebrate! Your loved ones will be so happy you got married and still down to party whenever you decide to hold your larger reception.

So, have our 10 reasons above convinced you? Are you planning to get legally married before your big wedding day?

written by Riana Ang-Canning
feature image by Erica Miller Photography

One of our favourite places for elopements in Vancouver is Pitt Lake. This awesome outdoor elopement venue has everything you need for an intimate ceremony and stunning wedding photos: mountain backdrops, waterfalls, marshy grasslands, forests of trees, beaches and so much more. Best of all: It’s not hard to find a private spot for your Pitt Lake Elopement – no crowds!

Pitt Lake is one of the largest lakes in the Lower Mainland and one of only a few tidal lakes in the world. At one end, it’s banked by Pitt-Addington Marsh Wildlife Management Area and Grant Narrows Regional Park. For those wondering about accessibility, many of the best trails around Pitt Lake are flat and easy to walk on.

Since it’s located near the SKY Hangar in Pitt Meadows, and since the scenery is drop-dead gorgeous, Pitt Lake is our go-to location when helicopter elopements are grounded.

Unfortunately, helicopter elopements are weather-dependent. When a helicopter can’t safely take off, our couples can choose to reschedule their helicopter elopement or proceed with an on-the-ground elopement (receiving a refund for the helicopter portion of their package, of course!). For couples who decide to tie the knot on solid ground, there’s nothing better than a Pitt Lake elopement!

Check out why we love Pitt Lake elopements (rain or shine!) and get in touch to book if Pitt Lake is the perfect spot for your Vancouver wedding!

Pitt Lake, Vancouver wedding — by Kelsey Rae Photography

pitt lake wedding — by Erica Miller Photography

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We are so excited to welcome Keely, of Keely Rae Photography, to the Young Hip & Married team as our newest Vancouver elopement photographer. Read on to learn more about Keely, check out her amazing photography work, and see where she suggests you elope in Vancouver!

Please introduce yourself! Who are you and what do you do?

Hi loves! I’m Keely from Keely Rae Photography. I’m an intimate adventure wedding and elopement photographer based out of Vancouver, BC. I’m all about those sweet and silly intimate moments; I want you to look at your photos and feel like you’re looking at a moment from an old film. It’s all about your story, intimate nostalgia, and your golden little legacy.

What first drew you to wedding and elopement photography? How long have you been photographing weddings?

Honestly, I got into this business by accident! I wasn’t super into the wedding photography industry or even into cameras in general unless it was my grandfather’s old Nikon film. During the pandemic, I had an opportunity to work closely with a wedding photographer in Whistler, and well… the rest is history! Let’s just say that my love for wedding photography sparked the same way teenagers fall in love in rom coms… passionately and with an “I’m all in” kind of vibe.

What advice do you have for couples looking for an elopement photographer?

Make sure you connect with them! There are so many photographers to choose from, all with their own style and skills, so make sure you’re choosing someone with a style you love as well as with a personality you’ll connect with!

What is your favourite moment to capture on the big day?

I call them the, “Holy shit, we’re married!” giggles. They usually take place after that first walk down the aisle as a married couple, or after that first kiss during an elopement.

When you’re not busy with weddings, how do you love to spend your time?

Usually adventuring outdoors or camping, spending time with my partner and loved ones, reading in the same spot for hours on end, making multiple cups of coffee, learning how to make sourdough bread, and thinking about my photography business (cause your girl is a low key workaholic).

What are your favourite elopement locations in and around Vancouver?

Iona Beach

Iona Beach has everything from a long stretch of sandy shore to wild grass marsh! If you’re looking for something with a little diversity, this is the place!

Pitt Lake

A classic for sure. Pitt Lake is stunning year round. You could get married by the lake, in a mountain field, or even helicopter to one of the mountains!

Golden Ears Provincial Park

If you’re looking for epic views without the gruesome hike, Golden Ears is incredible.

Wreck Beach

Wreck Beach is definitely one of the prettiest beaches in Vancouver. Though you should probably know that this gem is a nude beach! So if you’re eloping here in the summer, I’d suggest a sunrise ceremony so you won’t have any nudie photo bombers.

Pacific Spirit Regional Park

Pacific Spirit Park is easily one of the most stunning forests with easy access in the Vancouver area!

Squamish Estuary

Squamish Estuary is probably my favourite spot for elopements – not gonna lie!

Lastly, where can we find you online?

www.keelyraephotography.com

@keelyrae_photography

To book your Intimate Elopement + Photography package, get in touch!

Welcome back to the latest in our series of vendor interviews! We are so excited to feature Kim Jay Weddings, a photographer based on Vancouver Island. Not only is Kim an incredible photographer who has had the pleasure of working alongside our island officiants, but she was also married by one!

Please introduce yourself! Who are you and what do you do?

My name is Kim Jay and I am an elopement and wedding photographer based on Vancouver Island.

And fill us in our your history with YHM Officiant Chris-Ann!

Chris-Ann was our elopement officiant and we couldn’t have been happier to have her marry us. We had a very non-traditional wedding – splitting up the vow ceremony, legal ceremony and party into three different events. This allowed us to have our wedding the way we wanted, and not have to sacrifice various aspects. We wanted to throw a big party for our friends, but still wanted to have the intimacy of a small family gathering, so this allowed us to incorporate our families and our friends into the celebration in a way that made the most sense.

Chris-Ann was so accommodating and relaxed for our legal ceremony, and that was exactly the vibe we were going for. We got married in the park with our immediate family as witnesses. It was perfect!

How long have you been in the wedding industry?

I started photographing weddings about 5 years ago. I’ve been full time for 3 years now.

What first attracted you to the wedding industry?

I’ve always had a love for photography. I got my journalism degree so I could shoot for publications. At the time I was big into concert photography and worked for a number of festivals on their photos teams. I love documenting what is happening, and telling a story through the images. It’s addicting! I got started in weddings like I think a lot of photographers do – a friend asked me to shoot their wedding and I did.

When you’re not busy with weddings, how do you love to spend your time?

Camping, road trips and going to festivals are how I spend my free time. Hanging out with my fur babies and my hubby when we are not exploring.

*Photo of Kim by Sara Rogers Photography*

What does Kim Jay Weddings do?

Kim Jay Weddings is a photography company that provides documentary coverage of weddings and elopements, with a modern, fine-art flare.

What makes your business stand out from other photographers?

The connection I make with my clients is so important to me. In order to capture people as who they really are, they have to let you in; building a relationship of trust is essential. I go out of my way to help people with their planning, and try and go the extra mile to keep them relaxed on their wedding day. A little thoughtfulness goes a long way.

If you had one piece of advice for couples looking for a photographer, what would it be?

My one piece of advice for couples looking for their wedding photographer would be to make sure you LOVE the photographer’s images and how they edit – because what you see is what you will get. It’s also really important to make sure you connect with them on a personal level. I work with my clients for over a year, or even two years sometimes. So having a good connection is key, and will make sure you have fun along the way.

What are the current trends in weddings and photography? What’s on its way out?

Elopements are definitely on the rise, which I love! I was an eloping bride myself. In fact, one of your officiants, Chris-Anne, was the one who married us! I love the intimate nature of elopements. There are less moving parts (and other’s opinions to worry about) so the day feels more stress free and more relaxed.

I think trying to fit couples in a mould and poses that don’t match who they are is on the way out – thankfully!

What are the biggest mistakes couples make with photography?

Not printing their photos! It’s such a digital world now, but images are enjoyed best when they are in your hands, not on a screen. I encourage people to make prints or an album so they can leaf through the memories for years to come!

Where can couples save? Where should they splurge?

Personally, I think that couples should splurge on photography because these are your memories! I’ve spoken with couples that wish they had hired a professional photographer rather than opting for their friend, and they echo that sentiment. I also think good food is key! A happy belly and good conversation are the pillars of a good party, so I’m all about splurging on quality food and drink.

Couples can save money by keeping things intimate! Cutting down that guest list to your closest people will cut the bill, and allow you and your partner to have more quality time with the guests you do invite.

Thanks so much to Kim for teaching us the value of photography and sharing so many awesome tips. You can learn more about Kim Jay Weddings via:

Website: https://www.kimjayweddings.com/

Email: kimjayphotography@gmail.com

Instagram: @kimjayweddings

We are so thrilled to announce that for the 7th year in a row, Young Hip & Married has won Best Wedding Officiant at the BC Wedding Awards!

Officiant Beth took home the title of Best Wedding Officiant for 2020 and Officiant Shawn was one of the top three finalists. We are so proud of our winners, our entire officiant team and the whole community of BC vendors who were recognized and showcased some incredible weddings from the last year.

Here are the wedding stories that earned us Best Wedding Officiant gold!

Marie & Tash with Officiant Beth

Tash and Marie were married in an intimate and beautiful wedding at Pacific Spirit Park last July. During their ceremony, Beth shared inspirational words that described what this couple meant to their friends and family, and what they meant to one another. She encouraged them to continue working together as a team and using their love to inspire everyone around them.

After the wedding, the newlyweds wrote this review for Beth:

“Beth was incredible. We hit it off right from our first meeting, and felt comfortable and safe with her ideas for handling our intimate ceremony. The draft of the ceremony she first sent us showed how thoughtful and creative she is with designing the perfect ceremony for each of her couples. We are both teachers, and the end of term is a very hectic time for us, but Beth was beyond patient with delayed responses and last minute questions and changes. She made everything so easy and stress free; it was an absolute blessing.

At the wedding itself, her calm, generous presence really set the tone for our relaxed ceremony—exactly what we wanted. She exceeded our wildest expectations for a personally tailored ceremony illustrating our story and what is important to us. It felt like she was part of the family, she was so at ease and made everyone else feel that way too. We are so grateful for the time, care and attention that Beth brought to every part of the process, and we cannot recommend her highly enough. It’s been months since our wedding and people from our wedding are still bringing up how amazing Beth was and how special she made that crucial part of our big day.”

Kim & Parker with Officiant Shawn

Kim and Parker were married by Officiant Shawn at Brix this winter in a wedding that was all about family. Shawn explains his plan for how he made this ceremony one the entire family could feel involved in.

“For this wedding, the couple was bringing together their five children to form a new blended family. It was very important to this couple that their kids knew this wedding wasn’t just about mom and dad, but about all of them coming together. During my first meeting with the couple, I discovered their shared love for gardening and the outdoors. I came up with the idea to create a unity ceremony that incorporated their love of flowers and involved every member of the family.

I asked each member of the family to select their favourite flower. I then interviewed each person and asked them to share what they loved most about the other members of their family. I put together a big list for each family member about what the others most loved and appreciated about them.

On the day of the wedding, when it came time for the unity ceremony, I asked each member of the family to step forward and handed them their chosen flower. As they stood, I shared the acknowledgement I had written for them, telling them everything their family loved about them and why they were such an integral part of this new union. At the end, I asked everyone to place their flowers into a vase. I shared that while each flower was different, it was together that they became so much more beautiful than they were alone. Just like the flowers, each member of this family was unique and together, they would be creating something truly special.”

Here’s a sample of what Shawn said about a flower chosen by their daughter, Soph.

“Soph, you have chosen the Pink Mondavi Rose. This colour rose represents femininity, fun and happiness, which pairs perfectly with your witty and humorous personality. Your family loves and appreciates all the joy and happiness you bring to their lives. This is one of your greatest assets to your family. Always be who you are. You are loved and appreciated.”

Congratulations to all of the winners, finalists and participants of the BC Wedding Awards! We are so honoured to be recognized once again alongside our incredible vendor colleagues. Looking forward to even more wonderful weddings leading up to the 2021 BC Wedding Awards!

Who doesn’t love a quote about love?

We’re certainly fans, and so are many couples who choose to incorporate special quotes into their wedding ceremony. You may want to add a quote to your wedding program, say one during your vows or ask your officiant to share one during your ceremony.

If you’re looking for a sweet and special quote to include in your ceremony, check out our favourite 13 romantic movie quotes. The perfect way to combine your love for each other with your movie fandom!

“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love, and be loved in return.” – Moulin Rouge

“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” – When Harry Met Sally

“Our love is like the wind. I can’t see it, but I can feel it.” – A Walk to Remember

“I love you. I knew it the minute I met you. I’m sorry it took so long for me to catch up. I just got stuck.” – The Silver Linings Playbook

“It doesn’t matter if the guy is perfect or the girl is perfect, as long as they are perfect for each other.” – Good Will Hunting

“I vow to fiercely love you in all your forms, now and forever. I promise to never forget that this is a once in a lifetime love.” – The Vow

“It’s like in that moment the whole universe existed just to bring us together.” – Serendipity

“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s gonna be really hard. We’re gonna have to work at this every day, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, you and me, every day.” – The Notebook

“Life is not the amount of breaths you take, it’s the moments that take your breath away.” – Hitch

“I love you without knowing how, why, or even from where.” – Patch Adams

“You don’t marry someone you can live with, you marry the person you cannot live without.” – PS I Love You

“I like you very much. Just as you are.” – Bridget Jones’s Diary

“It seems right now that all I’ve ever done in my life is making my way here to you.” – Bridges of Madison County

Happy 2020 friends! We’re starting this year off by sharing a little vendor love and spotlighting some of our awesome colleagues in the business. First up, a vendor interview with Justin of Justin Ho Photography!

All photos are, of course, courtesy of Justin.

Please introduce yourself! Who are you and what do you do?

Hey friends! My name is Justin and I specialize in wedding photography.

How long have you been in the wedding industry?

I’ve been in the industry for 7 years.

What first attracted you to the wedding industry?

I was first attracted to the people aspect. I’ve always loved capturing portraits, emotions and connecting with people. A wedding day contains every aspect of that. Where can you find a job where you’re constantly surrounded by love, excitement and pure joy? Being able to create meaningful and purposeful work that brings people joy is so fulfilling!

When you’re not busy with weddings, how do you love to spend your time?

Fun fact, I play competitive ultimate frisbee (not the kind you play with your dog at the park). Most days in the summer I’ll be training with my team to take a break from editing photos. I’ve had a chance to represent Team Canada and BC. In addition, I’ve played in the Philippines, Tokyo, Hawaii and Hong Kong! All this running just so I can enjoy copious amounts of ice cream.

What does Justin Ho Photography do?

Justin Ho Photography specializes in wedding and engagement photos in the Lower Mainland. Most recently, I’ve been capturing a lot of proposals as well , which I love!

What makes your business stand out from others?

I graduated in hospitality management. The thing weddings and hospitality management both have in common is that they are both relationship-based. The best kind of photos are ones that are YOU! I find that if my couples are having fun, and loving the personality of the photographer, it eases their nerves and creates genuine moments.

What is the process of working with you?

Once we do an in-person consultation and get to know each other, we start the process! If everything works out on both sides and we’re a fit, it begins with tips and guides. From a complimentary engagement shoot and timeline building, we keep in constant communication until the big day. Once your wedding finishes with pure joy and awesomeness, you get your photos delivered in an online gallery!

Share a wedding story! What’s the most memorable wedding you’ve ever worked on?

During our consultation, the bride said, “Who knows, maybe I’ll take my clothes off that day if it’s hot enough!” As we did our first look at Wreck Beach on a scorching hot August day, she wasn’t joking. After the first look, clad in just her veil, she ran into the water! These are the kind of spontaneous moments I love about weddings!

If you had one piece of advice for couples looking for a photographer, what would it be?

Find a photographer who has a great personality! Most people forget but your photographer will be with you for 80% of the day. It’s not just about taking great photos but an overall experience from start to finish.

What are the current trends in photography? What’s on its way out?

Do you remember when people use to deliver photos on CDs? Well, most people’s computers don’t even have CD drives anymore. It might not be long before USB drives will be on their way out too. I think with technology advancing so fast, people are going back to old school ways and using albums again, which stand the test of time.

What are the biggest mistakes couples make with wedding photography?

People will often pick a location they love with scenic backdrops. However, one of the biggest things about photography is lighting! I’ll always pick good lighting before a good location, but moments before good lighting.

Where can couples save? Where should they splurge?

I’m biased and obviously think photography is important to spend on. It’s ultimately your legacy that will be passed down from generation to generation. In terms of savings, look for used decor through different avenues (Facebook market place, Craigslist); there are new things available all the time!

What’s something people need to understand about wedding photography?

Wedding photography is not just clicking a button for a number of hours on your wedding day. It’s a craft which us photographers have taken the time to hone. After your wedding, we spend countless hours behind the computer editing the images and perfecting each shot.

Any last tips for couples planning a wedding?

Enjoy the whole process of planning, but also find time to separate yourself from it! Find date nights where you don’t talk about any wedding planning and enjoy the quality time together.

Thanks so much to Justin for sharing his wisdom and wedding photography philosophies with us. You can learn more about Justin and reach out to him via:

Website: https://justinkhophotography.com/

Email: justin@justinkhophotography.com

Instagram: instagram.com/jhophotography

Facebook: facebook.com/jhophotography